Let's play a game.
Imagine you’re hanging out at a coffee shop with your friends. It’s a beautiful day and you’re in the middle of a seemingly innocent chat, when suddenly, a handsome stranger makes his entrance. This fully-fledged Adonis, who appears carved out of stone and cloaked in a captivating aura, seems to stop time. You found yourself lost for words until you realize that you needed to close your mouth, stop the drooling, and try to fake normalcy.
Now, this has never happened to me and I’m just drawing from an ever so common--Okay, maybe this did happen to me a couple of times. Anyways, ask yourself this: what was it about this seemingly perfect stranger that caught your eye?
It’s an age-old question that has plagued us for millenia continues to spark theories and debate among relationship articles, talk shows, and friends over what actually make a person attractive. Is there some universal Law of Attraction that draws you to another person? Does it all boil down to physical attractiveness? Or is beauty not always so skin deep?
One of the most interesting and controversial topics that Simply D and Jules covered on “THE INNERMIX SHOW” were these hypothetical Laws of Attraction, in which they attempted to find the common denominator that would make someone attractive to a large demographic.
Jules listed off some of the common attributes that women often look for in men. Yes, you’ve heard it all before: talent, intelligence, humor, and confidence. That should be easy to find, right?
Unsatisfied by the list and insisting that the personality attributes and physical attributes aren’t always correlated, Simply D asked, “What would draw you into someone if he were just to be walking by?”
Jules was ready with an answer for that one: “It’s in their aura. You can see it in the way that they act, the way they dress. It’s in their body language. Whatever they feel on the inside will be expressed outwardly. So those things do have correlation and is not totally separate. If someone who has all these attributes walks by, a larger percentage will be attracted this person!”
We can dig deep like that, but let’s come back up to the surface for a minute. A very insightful and humorous caller named Maurice gave his insights into the show by asking Simply D and Jules a difficult yet thought-provoking question.
“What is the caveman point of view from a woman? You see, the list you gave me was more media driven. I didn’t get to hear the raw, nitty-gritty stuff. What I’d like to hear is not just the “what makes a man attractive” list, but the “I want to have babies with that guy” list!” exclaimed Maurice.
At this point in the show, I started laughing hysterically. I personally never thought about making that kind of list, but now that he mentioned it, I was just as curious in hearing it as he was.
“Most women talk about the fuzzy stuff,” he continued. “Get to the bottom line! I hear women side step that baseline and tell us all the fuzzy stuff, such as in that list you gave me earlier.”
Jules listed off a series of features that I’m sure most of us ladies can agree on: Strong jawlines and noses. Defined eyes. Broad shoulders. Good height. All great physical features that can catch our eyes of just one glance.
“Yes, your eyes will look for those features but those aren’t the only things we look for. When someone who has feminine features can still come up confident with swagger and humor, he can win me over in a second. My initial attraction by my eyes has nothing to do with what I find attractive overall. So that fuzzy stuff still does come into play with what women want,” insisted Jules.
In the end, women and men will probably never understand what makes them attractive to each other, and it may be a mystery that cannot be explained by mere science or psychology. Because of the subjective nature of how we label some as attractive and others as unattractive, perhaps that is a question only we can answer on our own. And still, we may not all agree.
But since we’re on the topic, just for kicks, let’s take a look at a question that you readers may be interested in. What do you think draws people to Jules physically? And what draws people to Deon? Let’s hear the answers from our radio hosts themselves.
“One thing we noticed is that people tend to talk about how she walks, her hair and her eyes. Those are the 3 things we hear about the most. When Jules is acting and I’m talking to some of the guys, they say, ‘Man…that hair,’ or, ‘Did you see those eyes? She can cut a diamond with those eyes,’” chuckled Simply D.
As for Simply D?
“He attracts people through his voice. There’s something very soothing, inviting, fatherly about his voice and the way he carries himself. That’s a quality I wish I had,” smiled Jules.
So Laws of Attraction may be a misnomer: it’s not a law or a formula or a set of instructions that draw people to you. It’s a combination of your physical attributes and your aura. And if there’s one thing you can learn from Simply D and Jules, remember that confidence trumps everything in the end. Whatever confidence you possess deep inside you will radiate from within and magnify your attractiveness on both a physical, emotional and spiritual level. And that, my lovely readers, is the real magic potion.
Until next time,
Tiffany
Now, this has never happened to me and I’m just drawing from an ever so common--Okay, maybe this did happen to me a couple of times. Anyways, ask yourself this: what was it about this seemingly perfect stranger that caught your eye?
It’s an age-old question that has plagued us for millenia continues to spark theories and debate among relationship articles, talk shows, and friends over what actually make a person attractive. Is there some universal Law of Attraction that draws you to another person? Does it all boil down to physical attractiveness? Or is beauty not always so skin deep?
One of the most interesting and controversial topics that Simply D and Jules covered on “THE INNERMIX SHOW” were these hypothetical Laws of Attraction, in which they attempted to find the common denominator that would make someone attractive to a large demographic.
Jules listed off some of the common attributes that women often look for in men. Yes, you’ve heard it all before: talent, intelligence, humor, and confidence. That should be easy to find, right?
Unsatisfied by the list and insisting that the personality attributes and physical attributes aren’t always correlated, Simply D asked, “What would draw you into someone if he were just to be walking by?”
Jules was ready with an answer for that one: “It’s in their aura. You can see it in the way that they act, the way they dress. It’s in their body language. Whatever they feel on the inside will be expressed outwardly. So those things do have correlation and is not totally separate. If someone who has all these attributes walks by, a larger percentage will be attracted this person!”
We can dig deep like that, but let’s come back up to the surface for a minute. A very insightful and humorous caller named Maurice gave his insights into the show by asking Simply D and Jules a difficult yet thought-provoking question.
“What is the caveman point of view from a woman? You see, the list you gave me was more media driven. I didn’t get to hear the raw, nitty-gritty stuff. What I’d like to hear is not just the “what makes a man attractive” list, but the “I want to have babies with that guy” list!” exclaimed Maurice.
At this point in the show, I started laughing hysterically. I personally never thought about making that kind of list, but now that he mentioned it, I was just as curious in hearing it as he was.
“Most women talk about the fuzzy stuff,” he continued. “Get to the bottom line! I hear women side step that baseline and tell us all the fuzzy stuff, such as in that list you gave me earlier.”
Jules listed off a series of features that I’m sure most of us ladies can agree on: Strong jawlines and noses. Defined eyes. Broad shoulders. Good height. All great physical features that can catch our eyes of just one glance.
“Yes, your eyes will look for those features but those aren’t the only things we look for. When someone who has feminine features can still come up confident with swagger and humor, he can win me over in a second. My initial attraction by my eyes has nothing to do with what I find attractive overall. So that fuzzy stuff still does come into play with what women want,” insisted Jules.
In the end, women and men will probably never understand what makes them attractive to each other, and it may be a mystery that cannot be explained by mere science or psychology. Because of the subjective nature of how we label some as attractive and others as unattractive, perhaps that is a question only we can answer on our own. And still, we may not all agree.
But since we’re on the topic, just for kicks, let’s take a look at a question that you readers may be interested in. What do you think draws people to Jules physically? And what draws people to Deon? Let’s hear the answers from our radio hosts themselves.
“One thing we noticed is that people tend to talk about how she walks, her hair and her eyes. Those are the 3 things we hear about the most. When Jules is acting and I’m talking to some of the guys, they say, ‘Man…that hair,’ or, ‘Did you see those eyes? She can cut a diamond with those eyes,’” chuckled Simply D.
As for Simply D?
“He attracts people through his voice. There’s something very soothing, inviting, fatherly about his voice and the way he carries himself. That’s a quality I wish I had,” smiled Jules.
So Laws of Attraction may be a misnomer: it’s not a law or a formula or a set of instructions that draw people to you. It’s a combination of your physical attributes and your aura. And if there’s one thing you can learn from Simply D and Jules, remember that confidence trumps everything in the end. Whatever confidence you possess deep inside you will radiate from within and magnify your attractiveness on both a physical, emotional and spiritual level. And that, my lovely readers, is the real magic potion.
Until next time,
Tiffany
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